Self Awareness & Success in 3 Easy Steps by Holly Riley
Success is a result of Self-Awareness. Reaching goals of abundance, health, love, or creativity are the
natural result of true desire. Become aware of the focus of your attention and you will become the
master of manifesting dreams!
CATCH YOURSELF when focusing on problems. Notice habits of resistance (dread, anger, resentment, blame, judgement). Tell the whole truth! Have the courage to admit where you are emotionally.
Stop pretending to like things you don’t. Catch yourself playfully, without self blame. This is the
game of becoming more aware. Notice when you are dwelling on what’s ‘wrong’ with life or habitually
thinking about what upsets you. Check in with your feelings often to see what you have your attention
on. Make “noticing an all day commitment. As you wake in the morning, pay attention to the first
words you utter, notice the first feelings or ideas you focus on. Say “STOP” to your mind’s urge to
mull over a painful story or upset. Say “STOP” as often as necessary and don’t give up. Be patient as
you would with an unruly child that you adore. This works!
NOTE – Don’t ever make yourself wrong for your habitual thoughts, quite the opposite. Celebrate
every time you catch yourself. You will become more response-able. Rather than wasting a drop of
precious attention on blaming self, acknowledge that you are becoming more alert. Be kind, this is a
process. If you have a cronic emotion or upset take a moment and feel it on purpose instead of as a
default reaction. Look it in the eye and own it so it can release. Feelings come from inside.
DECIDE where to place your attention! The more you do this, the easier it gets. Practice moving your
focus toward what you want at home, driving, eating, at work, when you look in the mirror, etc. Use
your will and much like strengthening a muscle, it gets STRONG. Create a list of doable actions you
can use to shift your attention from resistance to desire. Be outrageous, dream big, and consider where
and who you want to be in one year. Pay attention to how good it feels when you move your awareness
from “don’t want” over to “want!” Solutions appear, intuition kicks in, life blossoms. Use the power of
your imagination and contemplate how delightful success will feel as you develop the skill to flow
energy and attention into actions YOU choose to engage. Begin your day with this practice and with
one week of determination you will feel different. You will become increasingly aware of how powerful you are with your intentions. Get good at DECIDING what you will give your energy to!
REPEAT STEPS 1 & 2 and NEVER GIVE UP! Yes, the above practice is a challenge and stopping
an old habit can require tenacity and perseverence. What could possibley be more important than
acquiring a skill that will lead you, and those near and dear, to peace, health, and more joy? Will it take
time? Yes. Can you do it? Definately! Will you have moments of discouragement in the human game?
Without question. Will you get back on the horse a gazillion times? YES! Will you become a master
equestrian if you are determined? Absolutely! There is no possibility of failure once you decide to take
responsibility for where you find yourself.
Points to ponder…
If you Blame someone for what you are feeling you have to wait for them to change so you can feel
Responsibility is the abilityt to respond in the present moment without blame.
How you treat yourself creates an instruction to the world to treat you the same way. Be kind and compassionatte with your process. Be as caring toward yourself as you would a dear friend you adore.
Watch the magic as the world copies you.
Resist and watch it grow – Allow and watch it go.
You are never alone, we are all in this together. Every thought, intention, and idea you have matters.
Thank you so much for every moment of your kindness, it goes forward with all of us into the next
Copyright 2012 by Holly Riley, Author of Allowing
A Portrait of Forgiving and Letting Life Love You.